According to a 2019 research study, only about 60% of kids in the United States live with their married, biological parents. The rest live in many different situations—commonly residing with one biological parent with visitation from the second biological parent after a divorce. With this happening so frequently, it’s no wonder that many parents wonder how they can continue being good parents to their children, even when they can’t always be with them. Here are some tips.
Always Show Up When You Say You Will
Keeping your child’s trust is much, much easier than re-establishing if after you’ve lost it. So, it is critical to your relationship with your child that you don’t promise things you can’t deliver, and that you always show up when you say you will.
Of course, this is harder than it sounds. Modern-day parenting is complex, and most parents juggle heavy workloads and many competing responsibilities. But your children should always come first. Block off your visitation time on your calendar and make sure other people in your life understand that visitation time always take priority.
Make Visitation Time a Special Time to Focus on Your Child
During your visitation time, make sure your child is your primary focus. Set aside time to do something with your child, like making an art project, going to the park or just playing video games together. It’s easy to get caught up in using parenting time to take children to and from activities but try to resist it: quality time is important.
If possible, make a special place in your home for your child—like your child’s bedroom that you decorate together. If that’s not possible, make sure your child has his or her own bed, toy bins and artwork on display. No matter what, make sure your child feels welcome in your home.
Find Ways to Stay Connected
Even if you can’t see your child every day, finding ways to stay connected can keep you feeling close. Set aside time to call your child or to send texts regularly. Add your child’s special events to your calendar so you will be sure to remember, even if you’re not there. Sometimes a silly GIF and a heartfelt “hope you had a great day” can go a long way toward making your kid smile.
Contact Us for Help With Legal Issues That Affect Your Kids
At the Schneider Law Firm, P.C., we understand just how important your relationship with your kids can be, and we work hard to protect it. If a legal issue affects your kids, our attorneys can help you take action and achieve the best possible outcome. For a confidential consultation, call our Arlington office at 817-799-7125.
